Making a Date Ask for a date directly. Don’t ask vague or indirect questions. Playing games invites the person to lie or play games. Don’t accept a vague or indirect answer. E.g., you’re looking forward to an event. You ask a person out. The person says “maybe,” meaning “no.” You hear “maybe,” meaning yes. Two weeks later, you figure out that “maybe” meant “no.” But now it’s too late to ask anyone else out. If a person says “maybe,” or doesn’t return your call or e-mail, assume that the person means “no.” Ask someone else out. If the person says “no,” thank him or her for the clear answer. Telephone NumbersAsk for a telephone number or e-mail address.A man should offer his card, but shouldn’t expect a woman to call. A man should never give a work or voicemail number. This suggests that he’s married and trying to trick her.A woman concerned about her privacy or safety should rent a voicemail box, or give out her e-mail address. Business CardsA man’s business c...