Leading Date

Making a Date Ask for a date directly. Don’t ask vague or indirect questions. Playing games invites the person to lie or play games. Don’t accept a vague or indirect answer. E.g., you’re looking forward to an event. You ask a person out. The person says “maybe,” meaning “no.” You hear “maybe,” meaning yes. Two weeks later, you figure out that “maybe” meant “no.” But now it’s too late to ask anyone else out. If a person says “maybe,” or doesn’t return your call or e-mail, assume that the person means “no.” Ask someone else out. If the person says “no,” thank him or her for the clear answer. Telephone NumbersAsk for a telephone number or e-mail address.A man should offer his card, but shouldn’t expect a woman to call. A man should never give a work or voicemail number. This suggests that he’s married and trying to trick her.A woman concerned about her privacy or safety should rent a voicemail box, or give out her e-mail address. Business CardsA man’s business card

Focus outward. Keep your attention outside yourself, toward a particular flirting target or toward the general social environment. You can’t flirt while you’re self-absorbed.  2. While flirting, follow up with a helpful comment. That helps them know you are kind, not just light-heartedly rude.  3. Body Language: Straighten up, good posture, shoulders relaxed, arms uncrossed, lean forward slightly.  4. Have fun. Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.  5. Compliment. Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The “flirtee” will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment the best response is merely to say Thank You!  6. Use your eyes. Whether in conversation or across the room, look at your target’s eyes a little longer than necessary, and keep a small smile on your own face while you do that.  7. Smile. It is contagious.